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This blog is written by Stacey Kelly at Your Very Own Story – the writer & illustrator of personalised children’s books. Click on the image above to preview yours now!

A friend asked me to answer the question ‘what are the key events that have led you to now?’ as part of a project she is doing. I thought I’d share my response.

My whole life’s journey has led me to now. I believe every decision, good and bad, throughout my life has moulded me into the person that I am today. I think the main moment that has led me to the life I now lead was when I decided to follow my truth and to be led by intuition. To whole heartedly, dig deep and make choices, for the right reasons, but that were congruent with the truth that lived within me – living the life I wanted to live, not the life that I felt I should live and making decisions based on intuition, often ignoring logic. I think what underpinned this decision was a process of building up self worth and the acknowledgement that my own needs are important and deserve to be met.

There have been many moments of significance in my life. One was getting my job at Moorlands School as the French and Spanish teacher. I knew in my gut that the job would be mine and that it was where I needed to be – little did I know that having this job would change my life forever. The first person I met there was Mat, the caretaker. We became very close friends, however, the universe had different ideas and gently laid out a plan for us both that everyone seemed to be aware of but us!

My dream was to get married, have children and live happily ever after. A big moment, and one of the most difficult times in my life, was when I woke up one morning and realised that if I stayed with the person I had been with for 4 years, I would not truly get this happy ending that I so desperately yearned for. Accepting this and then acting on it was one of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make and it challenged the core of who I was. People’s feelings matter to me and shattering another person’s world in order to do the right thing seemed wrong. It took me a long time to realise that if a situation isn’t right for you, no matter how much it hurts, it will also, on some level, not be right for the other person too and staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons, is worse than leaving for the right reasons. It took a lot of tears, guilt, sadness to get over the breakdown of my relationship and Mat was my friend throughout it all. He wiped away the tears, listened for hours and just took care of me. Little did I know at that point that Mat was and is my fairy tale ending – my husband, my best friend, the most amazing daddy to our baby girl – my everything.

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Another significant moment in my life was having my baby girl, Eleni. I found that being pregnant automatically made me truly and naturally follow my instincts. My newly acquired mummy intuition had kicked in and was soon to become the most powerful force within me. Not only was I learning to follow my true path, I was learning to make decisions without allowing fear to override what really was my truth. At 36 weeks, I cast aside fear and changed my birth plan. Having my baby in a birth centre ‘just in case something went wrong’ was not in line with how I now lived my life. I realised that my thoughts were as powerful as my decisions and that if I dismissed the fear, what became apparent was that I wanted to have my baby at home. I learnt to have faith and to trust my body and never doubted that me, my unborn baby girl and Mat could work as a seemless team throughout the beautiful experience that is child birth. My thoughts and belief in my body created my reality and at 5.35am on Thursday 7th November, my beautiful baby girl was born into my arms in water – the most incredible and emotional moment of my life. I will never forget it as long as I live.

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Since then I have ignored the books, the ‘shoulds’ and the ‘shouldn’ts’ and I have followed my intuition. Mat and I have been led entirely by Eleni and her needs. I truly believe that from the moment she arrived, we as parents have been moulding and shaping her fundamental values and belief systems. I believe that by being led by her and by meeting her needs, no matter how big or small they are, I am teaching her about self worth. I believe that from birth, her fundamental belief systems which are continually embedded within her subconscious are being formed. By showing her as a baby that her needs are important and that they will be met, as an adult, she will hopefully already have this belief system in place and it will underpin every decision she makes throughout her life. Throughout different stages in her life, we will have to teach her about other things like patience, empathy, understanding and compassion, but I will lead by example and take time to explain these things to her. For now, she is a baby and it is all about her. My job is to make her feel secure and safe within the new world she has been born into and I will do whatever it takes to achieve that.
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The next significant moment that led me to launch my business Your Very Own Story was a special, yet simple moment. Telling Eleni stories and replacing them with her name sparked the idea within me to write and illustrate my own children’s books that could be personalised. I just knew deep down that this was right as my creativity flowed. Within 4 months, the books were on sale and I am now running the business from home. It’s very different to the career I had in teaching, however, I love every minute of it and it is a business that is built on a passion of mine – art, writing and design.
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I can honestly say that all of my dreams have come true. I have a wonderful husband, the most amazing daughter, great family and friends and I am running my own business doing what I love and feel passionate about. It hasn’t been an easy journey but it has been worth it and I will continue to live my truth, to follow my intuition and to know that life doesn’t happen by accident.
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Only you really know what your true self desires. Facing my demons and admitting to myself what was wrong in my life was tough. However, it gave me an opportunity to make decisions and changes in my life that could pave the way for a life that was fulfilled and congruent with the dreams I have held for myself since being a little girl.

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Love Stacey x

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