I’ll never forget the day my friend told me her 3 year old son was in trouble at nursery because he’d created a superhero ‘gang’ that kept ‘webbing’ children like Spiderman! As funny as it was, it got me thinking about the whole superhero obsession that children have and whether it is a good thing or not. I’ve heard that a lot of nursery workers don’t like children to play superheroes because it encourages aggressive behaviour. I can imagine it’s a bit of a chaotic nightmare for them if the kids are fighting each other as they play out the whole ‘goodies’ and ‘badies’ scenario! However, can children loving superheroes also be a good thing?
Although I can see that superheroes might have their downsides, I also feel there’s a lot of good that can be learnt from them. I think the brilliant thing for children is for them to believe that they have super powers. Self belief is so important and as human beings our mindset is crucial and can determine the outcome of every situation we are faced with. In tough times, if we are positive and believe we can get through it, we most probably will. However, if we feel defeated this will affect us negatively and will quite possibly make the situation worse. If you believe you can achieve something you are halfway there so is a child believing they have super powers a bad thing? Surely it will give them a confidence and self belief that, if nurtured in the right way, could result in them achieving great things.
Children are always going to play ‘superheroes’, however, I did wonder if there was a way to encourage them to focus on the more positive attributes of their idols, rather than all the fighting and aggression. I write and illustrate personalised children’s books so when I was pregnant with my son, I went on a mission to create a book that would do just that! I thought to myself how great it would be if boys and girls believed that positive attributes such as positivity, kindness, honesty, patience & politeness were in fact super powers and that by having these qualities, they could become an actual superhero themselves. From this idea, I created a story that takes children on a journey where they are faced with different scenarios that allow them to use these positive traits. Each time they do, they earn a piece of their superhero outfit until they finally transform into the superhero they’ve always dreamt of being. The story is personalised with a child’s name, where they live and their friend’s name meaning children really engage with the story and believe it is them!
I also added a bonus page that you can fill out with all of the ways in which your child uses their ‘super powers’ every day. I wanted children to really feel like a superhero and getting them to think about how they already act like one is great for their self esteem and self belief.
I went on a mission to guide the obsession that children have with superheroes into something truly positive and I feel like I have achieved that. I’m so proud of this book and would love to know what you think of it too. You can actually preview yours (with your child’s details in it) so pop over and have a little read and let me know what you think 🙂 http://www.yourveryownstory.com/shop/my-superhero-dream